What’s the real reason?

We went around the class today introducing ourselves.  You might think that since we all work at Methodist Children’s Home we all know each other, but with more than 300 staff, we don’t.  This is one of the reasons I took these classes – to get to know some of the staff I work with better.

I shared this reason, and another one. The second reason I hadn’t thought about for a couple of weeks. I am also interested in Youth Ministry Certification within the United Methodist Church.  The process for this certification is not standardized across the denomination.  Certification through Perkins School of Theology is a 5 year process and, frankly, at 45, I’m not interested in starting a 5 year process for youth ministry certification NOW.

So, as I confessed both motivations to the class, I thought about multiple motivations.  We all have them.  This is the reason I am giving you for doing A, but the real reason is______.

Many times we would be better off stating our real reasons up front.

Now, to be fair, there are times that motivations ought to remain private, or at least nto shared broadly.

But, at the same time, I can think of relationships, both professional and personal, in which I almost always wonder what other motivations the person has for saying or doing whatever he or she is saying or doing.

How do you handle this kind of thing?  Do you tend to be  honest and transparent about your motivations?

By the way, the REAL REASON I am posting this is because I think the world would be a better place if we pursued honesty, openess, and transparency in sa many of our relationships as possible.

One thought on “What’s the real reason?

  1. I think we humans are frequently opaque to ourselves. It’s not that we lie to others and ourselves about our motivations, though we do that, but that we just don’t know ourselves clearly enough to differentiate “real” motives – or primary motives – from “unreal” or secondary motives.

    The search for a “real” motivation might also be reductionistic. Sure, we think out some of the things we do, but do we have to think deeply about everything we do?

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