Many of the young people in our care will admit to having issues with trust.
They, of course, aren’t the only ones in our society with such issues. Honestly, trusting others isn’t always easy for me.
Some might say that we (who have issues with trust) just have to trust, at risk of being let down.
Eventually, this theory goes, we will find someone trustworthy, and on that relationship we can rebuild our ability to trust.
But what about people who are surrounded by untrustworthy people? How many times must one have one’s trust burned before it is reasonable to give up trying?
The answer (from a Chaplain) is supposed to be that you can always trust in God. While I believe that true, I also believe it is horribly unfair to ask someone to trust in a God they can’t see when there is no person they can see in whom they can trust. This is a biblical principle I believe to be true – 1 John 4:20 and John 20:24-29, among others.
How, then, do we restore the ability to trust?
By becoming trustworthy people ourselves. Whether or not someone else, anyone else, is trustworthy, is beyond our control Whether we are trustworthy is within our control.
If you, like me, ever have trust issues, let’s work on becoming more trustworthy people.
Trust me, it will help.