Ah, Valentine’s Day. The day designed to remind us all of love and the distance we are from its ideal.
Rachel and I were talking about love and marriage last night. The marriage of some friends of ours is apparently on the rocks. This grieves me. Knowing now how good a relationship can be, I want everyone to experience the same.
How does love work? Many want a list of behaviors or separation of duties. My observation of marriages over the years doesn’t allow this. Happy, long lived marriages vary widely in their specific practices, habits, and behaviors.
Here is what Rachel suggested (and I agreed) is the difference maker: gratitude.
Healthiest love is love that recognizes deep gratitude for the object of that love.