Am I Selfish in my selflessness?

We had a good bit of candy left after halloween.  It sat nearly unnoticed until this past weekend, when I decided it was time to get it out of the house. I brought it to my office, where I can pass it off on unsuspecting co-workers and youth.

The reasom we have so much halloween candy left so long after halloween is that I bought the kind of candy I personally don’t find very tempting.

How selfish of me!  For my own protection I bought candy I don’t like to give away to other people.

How selfless of me! I bought candy I don’t like to give away to other people.

Is this the candy version of food banks, that are full (too often) with donated cans of stuff you and I bought at the grocery store but that, 2 1/2 years later, we finally decide we were never going to eat anyway?

Did I violate the Golden Rule?  I have given (or at least offered) unto others what I would not want given (or offered) unto me.

I think I am off the hook.  They wouldn’t make and bag this selection of candy if someone didn’t like it, right?  Since someone likes it, it is perfectly acceptable for me, who doesn’t like it, to buy it with the intent of offering it to people who do like it.

4 thoughts on “Am I Selfish in my selflessness?

  1. I like this and it is true – giving doesn’t have to be painful! Giving so that others benefit is what counts – regardless of whether or not you wanted to keep whatever you gave! Thanks for blogging!

  2. Thanks for reading! I agree giving doesn’t have to be painful. Maybe even to the extent that the more giving we learn to be, the less likely it is to hurt. What, then, of all the preachers who hammer home the “give till it hurts” mantra?

    • Good question! I think the idea is that giving itself is the thing that should hurt – not that you have to give away something that pains you! These day so few of us give things away other than that which we can so easily do without anyway. You actively bought candy to give away – the sacrifice was the effort and the intention. If only everyone in the world would do something as simple as that daily then the world would be a better place.
      Working in Bangladesh I’m blessed with seeing this often. Some of the poorest people in the world who will welcome you into their homes and lavish food and attention on you to their own cost because they make the sacrifice to meet the needs of others daily. I learn from them all the time.

  3. …..such is the human heart/mind?! We work hard towards selfless actions for selfish reasons and possibly act selfishly in the hopes of selfless giving… This very natural give and take dynamic is what makes us unique… and probably why we don’t have a halo! Great going…


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