Met a friend for lunch the other day. He paid, as I was “the new guy in town.” (Anyone else in the area want to buy lunch for the New Guy in Town”?) As we ordered, he struck up a conversation with the cashier, who also happened to run the restaurant.
Later, during our meal, she stopped by and asked if he wanted a refill on his drink, because, as she said, “I can’t stand to see you without a drink.”
My cup was, actually, emptier than his, and less than 6 inches away from it. I was not offered a refill.
I sat there in stunned silence. Should I have said something?
I am a middle-aged white male. I am not used to being among the overlooked.
I wonder how many people I leave feeling the same way. Hopefully when it happens it does not happen in the context of me showing favoritism to someone else at the same table.