Here I am, a week after all the other bloggers have had their say on the Miley Cyrus at the VMAs incident. I can’t say I have followed it all closely enough to comment. I didn’t watch the VMAs and never have. It’s not that I am opposed to music or music videos; they (music videos) have just never hooked me.
But when I saw this this morning, I was intrigued, so I read it. I wasn’t drawn in my the f word, nor will include it here. The quote that got me, and that sprung “blog fodder” into my head, was this:
everyone does dumb stuff when they are messed up.
Yes, everyone does. We are all right there with you, Miley.
Of course, few of us have lived most of our lives in the celebrity spotlight. There are other details about your life that some of my readers will know because they grew up “with” you in a sense.
In the interview you gave, you acknowledge that your life has been very messed up. While I likely cannot imagine the degree and specifics therein, I can empathize. I, too, have lived a very messed up life.
And here is where some want me to say something like: “then I gave my heart to Jesus and everything got better.”
Ok, not really. Right after I gave my heart to Jesus things did get better. But the shine wore off and had, for a couple of decades, and life that looked great but was still rather messed up.
What turned it around? a couple of things, honestly. First, therapy. I admitted to myself that I needed professional help and found it is a therapist I could trust. Second, I began to live more honestly and openly in relationship with the community of people I had around me.
These people were my church. So, yes; to those of you who thought I shrugged off Jesus a couple of paragraphs above, I do credit Jesus for the community in which I have, over the past 15 or so years, been learning to deal with and find healing for, all the “messed up” aspects of my life.
Simply put, Miley: we ALL do dumb stuff when we are messed up, and we are all, or at least have been, messed up.
Here’s hoping and praying you don’t wait until your mid 30s to take on the work of finding healing.