I don’t always agree with me

Tom Wright, I believe, said something like, “I believe I’m right 2/3 of the time. The challenge is that I am never sure exactly which 2/3 that is.”

I’m pretty sure I agree with him about this. What I mean by that is that I recognize I am not right about everything.

On the other hand, everything I think I understand or believe, I also believe I am right (or correct) about. One can’t affirm that one is right about something and at the same time claim to be wrong about that, after all.

Global DisasterBut, then, I’d also have to admit that I don’t always agree with me.

That is, when I consider the way I understand and believe some things now, I can see how my perspectives have changed over the years.

This may be news to some of you, but I do not see the world, understand the world, believe exactly the same things about the world, as I did when I was, say, 25.

I don’t always agree with me.

Thankfully, I have learned to give myself some grace in this, because sometimes it is hard to grasp. On some things I’ve changed quite a bit.

The biggest challenge I feel in all of this is I often wonder how the 54 year old me would communicate with the 25 year old me. This is a challenge because the way I remember the 25 year old me, I wouldn’t (then) have wanted much to do with me (now).

Many of the changes I have experienced as growth would have seemed, to the 25 year old me, as compromising my faith. Or maybe even abandoning it.

So, as I have aged, I have changed in these two ways:

  1. some of my beliefs have changed
  2. I have more grace for understanding, or at least remaining in relationship with, those with whom I disagree.

I would really, really like to think I’ve always extended such grace to others. But since I’m not so sure the younger me would have extended it to the older me, I really can’t say.

Do you always agree with you?  Do you have grace for those with whom you disagree? Do you have grace for yourself on things (beliefs, perspectives, opinions) on which you have changed?

2 thoughts on “I don’t always agree with me

  1. Ah, the grace of growing older, and letting go of some of those fiercely held beliefs based in fear of the unknown. We can do that at any age, but perhaps life experiences do teach us something, if we let them. LOL. I agree with Tom Wright’s comment. And, perhaps it is that I no longer need others to believe what I believe to validate who I am and make the beliefs correct.

    Can a person be right and wrong at the same time, yes. What is right for them might not be right for someone else, but if their belief (non-harmful, and not screamed at others from the backseat of my car while I’m driving through the dark on unlit country roads – the ‘adventure’ of last night) makes them a better person, who am I to judge?

    I love your site. I’ve been reading it for years. Thank you.

  2. Mar 6:10 And he said unto them, In what place soever ye enter into an house, there abide till ye depart from that place. Mar 6:11 And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.

    The text I read today was about, feeling “welcomed.” Not about if I am right or wrong, but if I feel “welcomed” in a crowd …of gossips, eager to display their likes and dislikes, and wishing me to agree with the way they are leading me. . .to say unkind things about others, to think of unkind ways to solve problems, even if a chaotic solution, may sound hilarious.

    Maybe I have grown old enough…to stand firm on my beliefs, rather than wishing to be validated by the way God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit loves me…forgives me, holds me assures me, chaos, confusion and babble, remind me of Babylon…each building a tower higher than others, just for a laugh. I don’t need an audience, I have one who holds me to principals, I do not wish to remove, because they hold me captive and a slave to the ONE WHO KNOWS ME BEST. I’d rather have the approval of God, but that does not mean I can be wish washy about WHO I TRULY FOLLOW. I may be the silent type…now, hoping what I hear, around me, are people who are growing in wisdom, stature and favor with God and man.

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