“It’s not you; it’s me” is not all bad

I remember saying this at least once: “It’s not you; it’s me.” Like you might expect, I said this, at least in part, with the intent that the person with whom I was breaking up not to take it personally.

Like every relationship, though, the actual truth would probably have been more “it’s some you, and some me.

I thought of this about a week ago, as reactions and reverberations to The United Methodist Church’s 2019 General Conference started to flow. Then I realized that I had done a good bit of blame placing of my own. I almost became a Facebook Troll of a fellow UM Clergyperson! I typed out and all-but-hit “send” several times. In fact, if I were confronted with everything I did actually post or tweet, I might find a few that I would now undo.

It was in that process of self reflection that the phrase, “It’s not me; it’s you” came to mind. This time, though, it was with this reference point. The ‘analysis’ and reactions to #GC2019 all seemed to share this one characteristic: The problem was, is, will be, with some “other;” the other side, my opponents, etc.

In other words, most of the early reflections on General Conference 2019 were

It’s not me; it’s you.

Which really just shows how easily we tend to get caught up casting blame away from ourselves.

What if some of the “It’s not me; it’s you” that has been going around within United Methodism for more than 30 years met up with a larger dose of “It’s not you; it’s me”?

What have I been doing or saying; what has my “side” been doing or saying that contributes to our inability, as Christian brothers and sisters, to find a way toward the future to which God is calling us?

As long as the other is the problem, we will not find a satisfactory solution.

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Written in Stone?

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A funny thing happened on the way to a memorial service. I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but a granddaughter of the deceased said, “well, it’s not written in stone….” In that moment, I made a connection that seemed so obvious I was at once wanting to think more about it and also wondering how I hadn’t thought of it before.

The idiom “written in stone” obviously refers to something written permanently; unchangeable.

The most obvious and best known example of which is, of course, the 10 Commandments. Think Charlton Heston or Mel Brooks, but we’ve all got imagery in our minds now, right? Those commandments were etched in stone. Literally carved. Permanent.

The 10 Commandments seem to be the go-to source for law and rightness. We’ve fought over putting them up on courthouse lawns and teaching them in public schools. Some people want you to think they are the foundation for western law.

All of this came flooding to me as we walked toward the sanctuary for the memorial service. All this was inspired by the simple phrase “written in stone.”

And then, just a split second later, I also realized this: Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was.

He didn’t cite any of those 10.

Jesus went to Deuteronomy 6:5, which says

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your being, and all your strength. (CEB)

and that wasn’t enough. He wasn’t going for 10, though. He added this, from Leviticus 19, saying this one “is like it:

you must love your neighbor as yourself (Leviticus 19:18, CEB)

So, when Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was, he didn’t go to something that was written in stone.

I am still wrestling with what this means, but I really felt I had to share it with you.

Time to let go?

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There’s not much future for CRT televisions, as evidenced by this sight on the curb this morning as I drove by. And it’s not even so much that the television was put on the curb. What really struck me is that I doubt anyone will want it enough to pick it up.

Which was clearly the owner’s intention. They left the remote on top of the tv!

Since I welcome insight from just about anywhere, and since I am caught up in prayer and concern for The United Methodist Church and #GC2019, I saw this tv with remote, sitting on a curb, as a metaphor.

I just wish I knew exactly what it was a metaphor for.

Once upon a time this kind of television was worth something. Now, you literally can’t give it away by leaving it on the curb.

Good Decision, Poor Timing?

Young Man ThinkingI just did something I need to do more often, but I’m not sure I picked the best time to start.

I was told a caller wanted to talk to me as Senior Pastor. This person had called for financial assistance and not gotten the answer they wanted.

Our church receives multiple calls everyday for financial assistance. We do not offer financial assistance, but do help people find other sources.

The caller wanted me to agree that the other staff person hadn’t responded to them in an appropriate way.

I try to tell people things they want to hear. If it were up to me, I would never say anything that hurt anyone’s feelings.

But that’s  my personality; it is not what I am called to. I want to continue to do my best to consider the feelings and reactions of others, but Jesus’ example that I want to follow, that I am called (and ordained) to follow, is to be willing to say things that need to be said, as much as is possible, in ways they will be heard.

I don’t think I was heard. Because, in fact, I was hung up on.

As soon as I heard the dial tone I wondered if I’d chosen the wrong time NOT to say what I knew the other person wanted to hear.

But I don’t think so.

Stretching Exercises

DD-05142016-0O1A8857.jpg“Does the Bible say rain used to come up from the ground instead of down from the clouds?” I was asked this morning. The idea rang a bell in my memory, so I did a bit of searching to corroborate the pieces of memory I felt forming.

A subset of Christians, and I think it is a small subset, holds the view that there was no rain before the flood, the preparation for which we find beginning in Genesis 6. A very short version of this understanding starts with an interpretation of Genesis 2:5-6.

before any wild plants appeared on the earth, and before any field crops grew, because the Lord God hadn’t yet sent rain on the earth and there was still no human being to farm the fertile land, though a stream rose from the earth and watered all of the fertile land—

Then, God hadn’t yet sent rain, and rain isn’t mentioned until the flood story, some claim there was no rain until the flood.

I’m not interested in supporting web traffic to this particular site, but I found a young-earth creationist site that explains this position as held by some. Moderately supportive of the idea, this site withholds endorsement. A summary of their reasoning for non-endorsement is that some such claims

stretch Scripture beyond what it actually says

I could not agree more.

Not stretching scripture beyond what it actually says is a real challenge for all of us. I am pretty sure stretching scripture is one of those things we are faster to identify in others than in ourselves.

How do you keep from stretching scripture beyond what it actually says?

One of my favorite verses

Youversion sends me a verse every day. Sometimes I read it more carefully and thoughtfully than others. This morning’s caught me off guard a little.

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)

Maybe I should explain how it caught me off guard. After all, this is one that I’ve had committed to memory for almost 40 years. Why would it jump out at me today?

Because for most of the first half of those 40 years, I weaponized this verse.

I pulled it out of context and used it to support my particular understanding of whatever it was I wanted “Jesus Christ” to be about for whichever argument I was in.

As if Jesus has always been a spiritual trump card to play on other people, to quash their arguments. And if “Jesus” means what I say he means today, then he’s always meant that. Because Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Except Hebrews 13:7. Which says:

Remember your leaders who spoke God’s word to you. Imitate their faith as you consider the way their lives turned out.

This is very important: Hebrews 13:8 wasn’t written primarily as a debate tool that makes Jesus eternally agree with me. Rather, it was written to encourage each reader and hearer to trust Jesus to work in his/her own life the same way as Jesus worked in the lives of their teachers and mentors.

And I’m sure it’s no coincidence that this follows not long after the “Hall of Faith” listing in chapter 11.

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. So are the ways we misuse his name.