Next time you try to tell someone something, but dress it in “some people have told me…” or “everyone is saying…,” we know you speak only for yourself.
Own it! Your opinion is worth something. Really; everyone’s opinion is worth something,
I mean it. I’m not just bloviating generalities. Your opinion matters.
In fact, it matters more when you can actually express your opinion. When you pretend you speak on behalf of others because you think it will carry more weight. Ok, it may not carry more weight, but it will be honest, and honesty carries more weight.
I care what you think, but when you throw down the intimidation factor of trying to convince me there is a groundswell of support behind you, I am more than likely going to blow you off.
I mean all this especially in the context of church work. The church has not always been good at being honest with one another. In fact, we’ve got some pretty horrific time-honored practices of putting people in their place and keeping them there. Of silencing minorities we don’t want to hear from.
But we are Jesus’ people. We claim him as our Savior, and say we want to follow him. We believe Jesus listened to individuals; if we follow him, it is a good practice for us to develop as well.
So, from now on, if I have something to tell you, I won’t try to crowdsource it. I hope you’ll do the same for me.